What to ask your psychic?

The Ultimate questions for your psychic reading

Thinking of booking a psychic reading, perhaps with a medium or clairvoyant. It might seem like something quite scary, but in fact, the experience of having a psychic reading can be hugely therapeutic. 

Whatever your reasons for a psychic reading, it’s something that can cause a little anxiety for some people. Perhaps you’re not sure if you want to know the answers you’re going to hear, maybe you’re just not sure that psychic powers are even real. Well, if you’re thinking of going for a reading then you probably understand that there is a side to the world that can be explained logically and you’re happy to explore it.

You might also be wondering what questions to ask in your psychic reading. Well, most of the time, questions come naturally. But, if you’re going to communicate with the spirit realm and you want to be sure you make the most of your time and money, these ultimate questions for your psychic reading might come in handy.

How to get ready for your reading

When it comes to getting ready for your psychic reading, the best thing to do is to relax. Make sure you’re in an open minded state, with as little in the way of preconceptions as possible. 

Yes, you might have seen from movies that dealing in the spiritual realm can lead to all kinds of complications. Actually, nothing is further from the truth. A good spiritual reading can be fascinating and will most likely help you find some answers to things that have been puzzling you in life. 

If you’re not a believer in the spiritual realm 100%, you might even be wondering if it’s a waste of time. Well, as a veteran of many psychic readings over the years, I can safely say that I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised, no matter what your views on the subject.

Sometimes though, the unexpected can happen. Don’t always expect straight answers to questions you ask, at least not in the sense that you might understand. Some responses might not seem obvious to you at the time, but with time and reflection things can become much clearer. 

One thing to bear in mind is that the spiritual advice you receive is intended as guidance. Sometimes we might hear things that we don’t want to hear, or more tellingly, not hear things that we wanted to hear. Rather than reacting negatively, take time to reflect and understand why you might have gotten this answer. With an open mind, we should be well prepared for even the most obtuse or strange response, however it should present itself.

Taking this into consideration, how should get yourself into the frame of mind for a psychic reading?

How to adjust your state of mind before and during a reading

The best thing is to be relaxed, open minded and to come with a desire to discover something new and have your questions answered. I would suggest the best way to do this is to find a moment to relax or, ideally, meditate before a psychic reading. 

At the very least, I would suggest some deep breaths and taking a moment to clear your mind in the run up to the actual session.

Some psychic readings can be done at parties or events, and that means that people might have had a few drinks. It can depend on the psychic, but avoid being too intoxicated. A small glass of wine or a few tokes on a joint shouldn’t affect the reading too much, but once you become drunk or high, it becomes tricky for your psychic to channel your energy. 

During the reading, your body language and state of mind can have an influence on the proceedings too. For example if you’re dismissive or negative about the session this can affect how your psychic interacts with you and the spiritual realm.

Remember, your psychic reader is acting as an interpreter between you and the spirit world. If you’re skeptical, that’s fine, but at least let them do their work. You can always reflect on the experience afterwards and make up your mind then about if you think it’s silly or not. 

Another thing to bear in mind is that it can be useful to write down your questions in advance. This can help you prepare yourself mentally too, and to see your questions before you ask them out loud. It might also help you to eliminate questions that you think are irrelevant, duplicate or that just don’t fit the bill. 

Guidelines for questions

When it comes to the actual session, it can be very useful to know how to ask questions. These are not solid rules, so don’t worry too much if you forget or get confused in the heat of the moment. But with these guides for asking questions during your psychic reading, you can be assured of getting fuller answers, which are more accurate and closer to what you’re looking for in your responses.

Be specific

First of all, it is good practice to make the focus of your question obvious. For example, instead of saying ‘Am I doing the right thing in my life right now?’ , try one of the following.

  • “Is my job holding me back from achieving my creative potential?”
  • “Am I wasting too much time looking for Mr Right?”
  • “Do I need to leave my town to live my best life?”

By focusing on one area of your life in general, you can find a specific answer to your pain points.

Focus on now

Many people get bogged down with the past, and nothing is going to change that, no matter what you know. Don’t worry about asking questions about the past, such as “was doing X the right thing to do?” as there is nothing you can do with that answer anyway.

Instead ask things such as:

  • “How can I find my true path now?” 
  • “What can I do to get myself to the point I want to be at?”

In short, visualise where you want to be and ask how to get there. If the past life reading is relevant then it will likely be mentioned, but other than that, I would avoid asking about it.


Your own psychic reading should be about you, and perhaps your immediate family or loved ones too. Some people like to take the opportunity, when speaking to the spiritual realm, to ask or delve into other people’s business. If this is something that seems tempting to you, bear in mind that the response might not be clear anyway and if anything could open up a whole can of worms.

Ask about you and your personal circumstances. 

  • “How can I find the man/woman that I want?”
  • “What can I do to make people respect me more in my job/family/life?”

Keep it positive

Playing the blame game, or asking how to do something vindictive is not the best use of communicating with the spiritual world. Remember too that angels, spirits and our ancestors are beyond the petty aspects of our physical world, so asking negative questions will most likely be returned with a positive answer anyway.

Examples of negative questions are things like:

  • “How can I stop people from stealing my job/money/partner?”
  • “Is there a way I can get back at my ex for dumping me so horribly?”
  • “How can I get more money than my brother?”

Yes or no questions

There is nothing wrong with asking a yes or no question, but remember that you’re communicating with the spiritual world. The answer might not be yes or no! Asking an open question does mean you’ll get a fuller response that you can digest later. 

Of course, there is nothing wrong with asking for clarity either. If a question has been particularly vague, you can always say, “Does this mean that I should do X?”

What areas of your life should you ask about?

When it comes to asking questions at a psychic reading, there really is nothing that is off limits. As I mentioned, it’s best to keep it positive and avoid asking how to do anything vindictive or damaging. But, beyond that, ask whatever you want….

These are the areas that most people ask about during a psychic reading, and some of the best ways to ask the questions that matter.

Love and relationships

Covering everything from active relationships, to the search for true love, asking about love and relationships is one of the first things people ask. If you have love questions, try some of the following:

  • What can I do to bring the right person into my life?
  • Is there anything I can do to bring the spark back into my relationship?
  • Is there anything I should know about my current relationship?
  • How can I be stronger in my relationship?

Money and career

It’s a tough call which is the bigger worry among many of us, between relationships and money/work. But, the spirit world can be a great source of inspiration and information when looking to get ahead with your money or career. Ask questions, such as:

  • How can I find inspiration about what to do with my life/career?
  • What I can I do to fix my problems at work right now?
  • What guidance can you offer me to achieve my potential in my work?

Health and lifestyle

Being healthy is key to a good life and lifestyle. Asking your spirits for guidance can be a great way to find your path or make that breakthrough in your health issues. Questions to ask include:

  • What advice can you give me to help my health now and in the future?
  • How can I help my body to heal itself?
  • Is there anything I should know about my health?

Are you ready for your psychic reading?

Remember that when formulating questions for your psychic reading, keep them as open ended as possible. If you want to write questions down, there is nothing wrong with that, and in fact it can be very useful in the moment.


Your psychic reading is a chance to get some great insightful on your life from another perspective, so be sure to make the most of it. Whatever reading you choose, we’re sure you’ll find some fascinating information and we hope you find it useful to apply to your life.


Of course, finding the best psychic is one of the key parts of your psychic reading. So, we offer a great selection of spiritual advisors, including Tarot readers, palm readers, mediums, psychics and astrologers. 

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